I don't know how everyday bloggers do it. Especially when they aren't getting paid. Sheesh. This blogging everyday for a week is difficult. So I am very glad today is Friday. Here is the last post for the week Mom! Hope you enjoyed it. This counts as part of your early birthday present.
Sometimes, parents appear to favor one child over another, either accidentally or on purpose. I think it is wrong, and guard constantly against this travesty of parental justice. I worry things are even, that each kid receives the same number of kisses ---which they don’t keep count of--- or the same number of m&m’s ---which they do keep count of.
I still get questions like: “Mom,” ---insert long whine in the center of this word, until it almost has three syllables—“Why did he get more than me?” I am always careful to say.
“Because I love him more.”
And then the boys will ask, “Why did she get french-fries for lunch with you and we didn’t?”
I could say, “Because you were in school and we were hungry,” but that answer isn’t honest enough so I say, “Because our hair is curly and yours is straight.”
See how this works?
I always get ridiculous giggles from my answers, because, I hope, the kids realize that a silly question deserves a silly answer and I do, actually, love them equally.
Yes, they are each different, each unique.
And I will qualify my declaration by saying that I do not, DO NOT, like all ages equally. No. The unappeasable toddler stage is NOT my favorite. The potty training stage, agin, NOT my favorite. I have a feeling that the ‘tween stage will not be my favorite either…in fact any stage that might cause my child to glare at me with that silent “Your not the boss of me,” look will not be a favorite part of their development.
(No, in my house, we do not say things like that, ever, or that I am a bad mom, or that I can’t be your friend anymore, or that you don’t like me right now, because then you always get a reminder of who washes your clothes and feeds you dinner and brought you into this world with much pain and suffering and that ends that conversation right there, if I may say so. Which I did.)
However as much as I have tried to teach my children that I love them equally, and they are all uniquely wonderful, and that this is how God Above Sees them too, this lesson has not sunk into my daughter.
I think that she thinks she is everyone’s favorite.
Not only that, she thinks that she gets to pick a favorite brother! And she isn’t afraid to say so!
22 comments:
Well I would try to comment on what was said, but I found the pictures much to endearing. So I just sat and admired the pictures of our children instead. Especially that last one...you know the one of that adorable, curly-haired, angel-faced little girl. Oh, by the way, you have singles pic's of all the children except the oldest...are you sure you're not being partial LOL ;)?
do we get photos of the small albums for gifts? I'd love to see them. :D
I know a mom who just says, "Because I love them more..." but somehow I can't do that. Maybe I could go with the straight hair thing.
wonderful pictures! You have a beautiful family :)
Beyond. Cute.
I used to blog every day but I like every other day much better.
the pics are terrific girl and yes the daily blogging is a killer..ha
oh my bob after this week i think i'm dropping back to three a week. i nearly killed me this week.
what CUTEEE PATOOTEEES and happy birthday to your mom!
It's harder with an only... LOL
Gorgeous kiddies! :o)
I love my kids equally, but for totally different reasons. They are night and day. I am amazed at how two parents can have two totally different children.
I TOTALLY say that I love the other more, because the implication from the whiner is just that. Said Whiner can then see precisely how ridiculous the idea is on their own without a parent telling them. Teaching my kids independent thought is good for them....at least this is what I keep telling myself. haha.
I think I shall be a much better mom when the kids get out of the whining ages.
Thankfully I only have 1 of each, so I can just say that I have a favorite son and daughter...
BTW, I'm now convinced that we'd be best friends IRL - I have awful teeth, a passion for musicals, and I got super excited when I saw T'Pau *AND* the Muppets on your playlist! Oh, and where are you visiting in TX? That's where we're probably going to be moving...
And finally, I know you were just tagged but I'm tapping on your shoulder. Lightly, though, so feel free to ignore it ;)
WHAT DOLLS! You are so blessed!!
How cute. If you come up with any great answers to those questions, let me know! I'm still trying to figure things out.
Finally starting to get caught up after vacation. This post is so true and we do things similarly--though I do point out often what a horrible mom I am, to which they giggle. I also constantly remind them that they are all different and what is good for one is NOT good for another. They are getting it.
weird...just weird.
I have only one child, and he will always and forever be my fav
This is not a problem I have ever had to deal with all 7 of our kids hate each other. Well hate is not exactly right they prefer other people to their siblings.
i wish you much luck in finding an answer
Blog everyday for a week?!!!
It's all I can do to blog every 3 months!! *grin*
Seriously though, beautiful babies and I think that curly headed beauty knows more than you're giving her credit for!! *smile*
I always knew that my youngest sister, Michelle, was the favorite, but to be honest, I don't mind. They had nine kids; how could they possibly love us the same, and I really feel I could not have managed that many kids emotionally. Michelle is the baby, and the closest in age to her was the "black sheep," 5 years older than her. My parents finally had time to attend to one of their kids emotionally, and I am happy Michelle has had that. She pays my mom back in attentiveness in spades.
I cannot believe you did a post everyday for a week!! I barely can do two or three!! Congratulations!!
You are correct...the tween years are not a favorite.
C-H-A-L-L-E-N-G-I-N-G!!
Love the photos and your "whining answers".
xoxo,
Brittany
Thank you so much for your prayers and wonderfully kind comments during this difficult time. Every word made and is making a difference as we begin this new journey.
Thank you so much for your words of comfort and blessing,
kari & kijsa
Thanks for visiting my blog. I took the frame apart of two photos you inquired about on my blog. Back of photos:
No 2830, Cupdi Asleep & No 2829, Cupid Awake...Published by Taber Art Co.
Sharon
thanks for your wonderful comments girl!
Love the way you write- very funny, easy.
D.
I am the youngest of four girls so I KNEW I was the favorite!!
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